What does loving your own self means?
Self-Love is something that can never be expressed in words, but it is a feeling that can be cherished forever. Self-love can take many forms like dancing in rain or reading your favourite book, scented candles, or it can be anything you like. Self-Love is not only about pampering yourself.
Acceptance of reality would be the first phase of life. After acceptance, you need to know how to handle the ups and downs. The truth is: Self-Love is not just a physical process. It is something, we need to learn how to conquer and keep our demons. Before moving towards the change of life. Trying to suppress what we feel may seem like a solution at that moment, but the problem may grow bigger than what it originally is in the long run.
There are some ways I’ve been learning how to embrace myself for Who I am.
Be Unafraid to Express Yourself
To be honest, I still struggle with the idea of being open with what I feel because I feared burdening other people for my problems. I realised that I was having a fear of talking to people. Yes, they feel worried about you and they want to help you with whatever you are going through. But, the reality is that they won’t be carrying your problems as their own burden. You have the right to express who you are and how you feel- don’t take that luxury away from you.
One day, I came to a realization that I would never be able to say I have solved what I was going through. I was always going to be critical about my own situation and there are things that would take me a whole lifetime to figure it out. Take the step and tell people about how you appreciate them and are able to echo with them. Be Real. Let’s help each other and feel heard.
Keep Fighting with Yourself
There are many days when you feel like all giving up on your own thoughts, and it’s okay. There are days when being able to say that you survived is an achievement. There are some nights when you feel like this is way too much and you’re frustrated. There are moments when you feel like you’re chained by the things of your past and you hate yourself for still being affected by it. I know. I see you, I hear you, and I feel you and what you are feeling is okay. In fact, take the time you need to deal with it. Take the day off or go on a day out if you are unable to summon the strength and go on. But don’t give up completely.
Be Gentle with Yourself
We seem to set much higher standards for ourselves. We often beat ourselves for not being able to achieve to something, for not being able to secure, for not topping in class, or for not being able to get the job- we can go forever when it comes to criticizing ourselves. Darling, be more gentle with yourself. Forgive yourself for not knowing better. Forgive yourself for not being able to gather all the strength. Forgive yourself for what you have done in past. Forgive yourself- and be open to change the traits that have been toxic to you and to other people.
Have an aim to Change rather than staying broken
The point is that- most of us find it easier to stay broken rather than driving towards the change. In real, tackling your mental health is a real struggle rather than making an effort to make a change. For a change, it requires greater effort in comparison to ooze in a problem. One day, I hope you will be able to love yourself for who you are and that you are proud of the progress you have made.
That one point, when you feel like you are surrounded by darkness? You know what? You have learned how to light your own flame. Who knows, you might be a guiding light for many people who are going through their own dark tunnels too.